With the help of Durex, we share 10 tips for mind blowing sensitivity in the bedroom. Enjoy!
To celebrate the launch of the new Invisible condom, Durex’s thinnest ever natural rubber latex condom, Durex wants to help everyone experience the best possible sex with maximum sensitivity.
Durex sex and relationship expert, Alix Fox, shares her top ten tricks and tips on how to take sensitivity levels from zero to sensational.
Carousel Kissing
This is a simple foreplay game that allows you and your lover to take turns as to who is in control, while simultaneously playing with different surfaces to heighten your sensitivity to touch.
With both of you standing up – topless, naked or just in your underwear – the woman should begin by kissing her partner, at the same time gently pushing him backwards against a surface or wall.
After a little while, the ‘kissing carousel’ should spin: rotate so that the gent is now in command of the kisses. Spin again every few minutes and aim to back your partner up against a different, new surface every time such as a cool, smooth window onto some plush velvet curtains. This will enliven the nerves in their shoulders and spine.
Raspberry ripples
Don’t restrict non-medicated balms and salves just to your lips – they also work fantastically on nipples.
Applying a dab of fruity berry lip balm to your nipples moisturises them, enhances their colour, and tastes great for your lover. You could also try tracing circles around your partner’s nipples with a non-medicated spearmint lip balm for a cooling sensation.
Remember that vibrators aren’t exclusively for use in the genital area. If you or your lover has sensitive nipples, try teasing them with a small, pointed bullet vibe like the Durex Play Delight, designed for pinpoint stimulation to heighten sensitivity further.
The couples count ‘n’ cover
‘Invisible’ is Durex’s thinnest ever natural rubber latex condom which helps you maximize sensitivity. To enhance sensation even further, why not try putting one on together?
The man should kneel on the bed, with his partner kneeling behind him. After ensuring the correct positioning of the condom, as he begins to slip it on, she can reach around his hips and help smooth it down.
Another option is to try counting slowly to ten while putting on a Durex Invisible, and ban your lover from touching you until you hit double figures – they can only watch. This brief pause whilst sliding on a condom is a way of actively building anticipation and creating a tantalising moment of tease.
Teasing tummy turn-ons
They say that a man’s stomach is the way to his heart – but did you know that massaging his tummy during sex can heighten the sensitivity of his parts, too? And that the same can work for women?
Try using the flats of your palms to stroke your partner’s stomach during intercourse while you’re on top. Start by placing your hand just above their pubic bone, then move upwards over their bellybutton, before starting again at the base of their tummy.
Make your movements smooth, but fairly firm. This will pull lightly against the skin of their pelvic region, making it tauter and more sensitive. The repeated motions of pulling upwards can bring a climax on.
A helping hand
Men’s testicles are incredibly sensitive, so experiment with cupping and downward stroking motions, taking things slowly and gently. Avoid pressure or squeezing unless your partner specifically tells you they enjoy this.
You’ll notice that there’s a ‘join’ or ‘line’ running down the centre of the scrotum – running a soft fingertip all the way along this can feel dreamy. As well as providing delectable new sensations for him, it will enhance trust between the both of you.
Pay close attention to your partner’s reactions as you touch him. You can ask him to rate how intense each action feels on a scale of 1 to 5. Having clear communication like this is an invaluable boudoir skill, and can be applied to all sorts of experimentation!
A breath of fresh air…
Deliberately focusing on the air travelling in and out of your lungs can be as crucial to incredible sex. Paying attention to your own breathing patterns can hugely ramp up the sensitivity of your body and the intensity of your orgasms.
To get in the right mindset and make sure you’re both aware of your breaths during sex, you and your partner should sit or lay facing each other, both breathing deep into your bellies. This helps decrease stress, aid relaxation, and delivers more oxygen into the bloodstream which will help aid orgasm.
Try to keep breathing deeply and consciously during sex. Experiment with whether you inhale and exhale through your nose or mouth, and see if breathing faster or slower changes the sensations in your pelvic area.
And exquisite exhalations
Dial back your foreplay and begin by using barely-there breaths as a sensual tool to stimulate your lover’s body. This will prompt them to concentrate fully on every subtle feeling, fully awakening their skin’s sensitivity.
Lay your naked partner down on the bed, and hover your mouth over their body. Exhale slowly and slightly harder than usual so that they can feel the heat of each breath on their skin, whilst taking care never to actually make contact. Follow the curve of their neck and shoulders; sweep up and down their legs, and along their spine.
Mix things up by painting a ‘treasure trail’ onto your partner’s skin using Durex Play Tingling pleasure gel, and then follow it with your breath. The pleasure gels’ sensations are enhanced by the flow of air.
Suite talk
Increasing sensitivity in the bedroom isn’t just about enhancing physical sensations – it’s also about being sensitive to your lover’s moods, desires, tastes and emotions.
Balancing sexual give-and-take is a key part of a healthy relationship, and ensures that both partners feel looked after, fulfilled and appreciated, and assured that their lover is genuinely sensitive to their feelings and needs.
A light hearted way to ensure that both of you are equally catered for is to each keep a suite of playing cards: one of you is diamonds, the other clubs. Every time your lover indulges you, give them a card. If, at the end of each month, one of you holds a much larger hand than the other, it may be time to discuss how the more ‘giving’ partner could be better satisfied.
Material girls (and boys)
It’s a well-known (and excellent) move to slide a pillow underneath a woman’s bottom during sex, to help raise her hips and pelvis to a feel-good angle.
Take things a step further by using a cushion with a tactile cover on it instead; try sleek satin, fake fur, or even daring PVC. Investing in a variety of washable cushion covers is a quick, easy and budget-friendly way to play with different material textures in bed.
You could also pop a Durex Play Delight underneath the fabric of a pillow’s case to create a brand new soft, buzzing toy, which she can ‘ride’ between her thighs or lay on for added stimulation.
Number crunching: Switch ‘69’ for ‘64’
It’s time to recalculate the classic ‘69’ position and try the more practical ‘64’ position. One partner lays on their back, while the other straddles their torso, facing away from them with a knee either side of their body.
The lover on top then bends down to perform oral sex, whilst raising their bottom into the air; their back and thighs form a ‘V’ shape while their shins remain flat on the bed – a little like a number 4 tipped forward.
In a ‘64’, the lower partner should use their hands (or a vibrating toy) to stroke their lover from behind. This allows them access to some highly sensitive areas of the body, leading to exciting new sensations.