The person on the tube is talking loudly in your ear, or you spilled coffee all over your brand-new white shirt. Whatever the reason is, sometimes we get so hot and bothered that we feel seconds away from transforming into the Incredible Hulk. It’s perfectly natural and valid at times, but anger can also be a detrimental emotion to feel. Finding ways to manage anger within yourself can go a long way in saving relationships and keeping you out of
sticky situations.
Top Life Coach, Carole Ann Rice knows what anger can do to ourselves and the people around us. So, she’s revealing her top five ways to tame the angry beast inside of you. Here’s 5 IDEAL ways to tame your anger.
GET RID OF YOUR ANGER IN A HEALTY WAY…
i.e. not on someone else – not only does anger hurt others but holding onto it also hurts you. Even if you shouted at someone else, you’re the one with the red, unctuous face and high-blood pressure, feeling hot and panicky. Anger has the potential to hurt the one feeling it just as much as than the one on the flipside.
CONSIDER WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY ANGRY ABOUT
Ask yourself, ‘What am I angry about exactly?’ – is it that people have misunderstood something? Has there been a serious injustice? Anger is very much a response to not getting what you want or feeling misunderstood.
IS IT REASONABLE TO BE THIS ANGRY?
People misinterpret each other all the time. Anger can be a natural response but it’s not always the most correct or measured solution. Resorting to anger can be misjudged at times. Don’t shout, try articulating what you feel in a cool, examined way.
STEP ASIDE AND COOL DOWN
If you’re in a social situation, step aside and cool down – no matter what function you’re at, it’s ok to sidebar yourself away. Family members can often push our buttons, but instead of causing a scene, go off and take a walk. Talk to a reliable friend. Spend some time alone, heck, even beat up a pillow to release how you feel! Get it out of your system so when you return, you feel more cathartic.
SAY HOW YOU FEEL TO SOMEONE
Say how you feel to someone – do you feel hurt? Undervalued? Misunderstood? You shouldn’t keep it bottled up inside, because you’re just asking for an eventual explosion. Externalise how you feel by saying, “I feel X because you did Y,” which is a great way to explain yourself without attacking someone outright.
