Valentine’s day is nearly here, and with it, a time for saccharine displays of sentimentality and callous consumerism. Can you tell this writer is single? Thought so…
And though February 14th might usually be a day spent resenting couples doing ‘couple things’ and getting into your PJs extra early, it needn’t also be a time spent sexless. Instead, Valentine’s Day and, in fact, every other day of the year can be as sexy and spicy as you make it, even as a singleton. With that in mind, here are 5 ways to spice up your personal if you’re single.
TREAT YOURSELF TO SOME SOLO SEX
Discovering what you enjoy sexually through self-exploration can be a great way to gain more confidence in your body and relieve stress, too. If you’re keen to learn more about that, then check out these 5 IDEAL reasons to self-pleasure tonight.
However, if you live with housemates, as Sinful points out “worrying that people can hear the buzz of your vibrator” can kill, well, the buzz of masturbating, both physically and metaphorically speaking. They suggest getting a quieter vibrator in such circumstances, which are specially designed for when you’re keen to keep your private life just that – private.
Indeed, vibrators – whether quiet or buzzing – are still pretty much the most reliable sex toy for bringing you to orgasm, enabling the user the feel a sense of control and powder over proceedings. Which means if you are using one in a shared flat, for instance, you may want to keep those moans in check, too…
Read: 6 amazing tips for improving your sex life today
AUDIO EROTICA
“Just erotic. Nothing kinky. It’s the difference between using a feather and using a chicken.” This famous Terry Pratchett quote is what comes to mind when we think of audio erotica, in other words, porn for your ears.
It’s even been touted by Vogue as the next wellness trend, a place where sexual wellness and desire meet storytelling, all ending in ultimate satisfaction.
Audible has a whole archive dedicated to audio erotica. We’re fans of sex toy brand SmileMaker’s audio series ‘Bedtime stories’, which is based on sexual fantasies sent in by female writers from around the world.
Other places to get your audio erotica fix, as suggested by Glamour, include Dipsea, which is often touted as the Headspace of Erotica and full of plot-driven aural titillation, and Quinn, where users can upload their own narrations and guided masturbation sessions.
We’re also fans of Vibease, which is a vibrator that you can sync with the erotica stories. Their app has a carefully curated and comprehensive collection of erotic genres to tickle (quite literally) your fancy. We particularly love their smart vibrator which is disguised as lipstick. Though really, there’s nothing to be ashamed of here!
READ A SAUCY ROMANCE NOVEL
Sometimes you just can’t get on board with someone’s voice on Audible, and when it comes (or rather, doesn’t) to audio erotica, that sense of a stranger narrating proceedings can be a bit of a buzzkill. Enter romance novels that you can buy from just about anywhere.
If you’re a fan of Jane the Virgin, you may have recently gotten into the genre of hot and steamy romance novels, with the series carrying the torch for this saucy, sexy genre in style. There’s no school like the old school, hey?
Or, do you remember that episode from Friends? You know, the one with the vicar, chimney sweep, burnin’ loins (not its official title!).
As Rachel so rightly puts, “There’s nothing wrong with a woman enjoying a little…erotica. It’s just a healthy expression of female sexuality”. While we’re not all fans of 50 shades of Grey reading an erotic, romance novel can be a great way to spend an evening. Or day. Or both…
SEXTING ON DATING APPS
Sexting (whoa-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh), it isn’t sex, it’s the next best thing!
If you do feel like you need a helping hand in spicing up your personal time, then there’s a world of stimulation at your fingertips in a whole different way to what we’ve so far covered. Indeed, on the internet’s many dating apps you’ll find willing participants in consensual, remote sexting, able to satisfy your craving for human contact without the actual contact.
When it comes to sexting on dating apps, Bustle suggests that you “be honest about what you’re looking for.” This is crucial, to ensure that boundaries aren’t crossed. Once you’ve established your motives, it’s time to get your hands dirty!
DO IT IN PUBLIC: WEARABLE SEX TOYS
App-controlled or remote control sex toys… We know what you’re thinking. What if someone hears the vibrator? What if you can’t control yourself and someone hears you? What if, what if, what if…
But using a sex toy in a public place, be it a restaurant or in a bar, gives you a dirty little secret, and then there’s that thrilling notion, knowing that you may very well get caught. Indeed, wearing a vibrator in public takes the thrill of exhibitionism to a whole new level, don’t you think?
The secret, once again, lies in stealth, so prioritise a vibrator that’s quiet. The We-Vibe Jive is a leader in its field, and boasts “whisper-quiet vibrations’’. You simply slip this secret vibe inside and control it via an app. Simple.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Valentine’s Day, and any other day, in fact, needn’t be a stimulation, titillation free affair, even if you are single. Instead, there are various ways to spice up your personal time and have some fun, solo. We hope you’ve found some satisfaction today!